Who you think you are may be hurting you….let’s explore this tricky topic. It’s more than self-image.
Like it or not, our lives are a collection of our thought habits.
This past Saturday I had a great session with my Mastermind ladies. These are women who have worked with me for a while and are frickin’ awesome! Heck….they inspire me with all they accomplish and their aligned, soul-based living. Many of them have recently achieved more in their careers and lives than they ever imagined possible for themselves.
They are living their dream lives because of one major change. They began to see themselves in new ways. There are some necessary steps to take to get aligned.
How to Fail Well and Succeed.
Warning: This idea may conflict with your idea of reality!
We are taught that failure is to be avoided at all costs.
Good grades are celebrated and failing grades are punished!
Failing is bad!
Failing is wrong and painful and a sin.
Now that you are an adult, I can share something with you.
Failing WELL is the key to SUCCESS!
Yes, many successful people will tell you this.
Failures are legendary….Babe Ruth struck out 1,330 times in his baseball career, but he isn’t even in the top 100 of strike outs. The top of the list is full of Hall of Fame players and men who are the games all-time greats!
I find that many of the folks I talk with on clarity calls and in my coaching are so caught up in their story that seeing a different life seems impossible.
Funny…many of us will play the lottery with odds over a million to one and not take REAL control over our destiny. When you are ready to change and ready to see the world in a new way and to see YOU in a new way…you are ready.
It is only when you are truly ready to control your destiny that you can imagine…
1. Your life being better,
2. You being able to control your destiny,
3. What it feels like to decide to create your life for yourself….even if you have a spouse and kids to look after….you are the only one you can change.
YOUR Thoughts Are Not Who You Are…
Every day you think thoughts, and science tells us over 70% of these thoughts are the same ones day in and day out. These repetitive thoughts create a belief system that controls our decisions.
Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is the science of success.
When we think and feel in repetitive ways it becomes our “reality.” Eventually it feels like our thoughts are who we are.
We are wiring our brain every minute with the wiring and “firing” of neurons, especially when emotions are high. This “programming” makes it feel permanent and convinces us that we are how we think and the world is how we feel.
How to Manage When it Never Ends: Embrace Life Lessons
What? Never Ends?
I know….life is a constant flurry of things…events…feelings….thoughts…..can’t we just get off and coast?
No. We. Can’t.
Life has a way of constantly flowing.
A river that never stops, always flowing.
A horse race around the track, over and over.
When I was diagnosed with breast cancer 6 weeks into a new job, I thought my entire existence was going to crumble. Cancer gives one the jag in the throat, the punch in the gut…I did wonder if I would die or how bad it would all be. When I told my boss I was so afraid of being criticized,
Yes, imperfections guarantee your success.
Stick with me, because I see this career limiting problem over and over. I saw it last week after an email I sent out had a typo. Ok, more than a typo, since spell check would not have caught this. As a matter of fact, it may have caught the misspelling and helped me put in the wrong word. You know the pesky there/ their verbal confusion? I have no confusion about the use of which word. I was a star in English and Spelling growing up and I used to be the first to jump on wrong use of words like that. (I am tempted to put all sorts of wrong words in this article to prove my point…but sarcasm doesn’t ever serve the highest good.)
Fifteen years ago I was at a 4 day conference on how to be a world-class speaker and influencer.
This week, I decided to video my blog on work myths…
Take me on the go– less than 10 minutes to learn the 4 Work Myths that are Holding You Back.
These are “stories” you may have heard around the dinner table as a kid and not even realize they are in you. Perhaps you are caught up in seeing these issues as reality… could it be you are buying into other people’s stories and they have taken over your reality about work?
My clients know about breaking through these seemingly brick wall stories…it is possible.
A burst of energy came over me yesterday about a promise I made a long time ago.
This promise gets stronger by the day.
My feelings and motivation get deeper and I am more committed to my life with each client I work with.
You see….when I was a young nurse, I was reminded by many of my dying patients to enjoy life before it is too late. I have been living life this way with gusto for years.
Sure, every now and then it has been clouded by external events that have caused me to be in fear mode more than “no regrets” mode, but mostly I operate from…
“what do I want my life to have been when I am in a rocking chair in my golden years?”
The rocking chair test is a powerful way to pull back the lens and see who we are,
Today (in the U.S.A.) we notice those who gave their lives to our country. This is so inspirational to all of us. Where would we be without that level of dedication and loyalty?
Noticing their success and loyalty can truly fuel us.
Because, one key element of The Law of Attraction is “You are what you think about and you attract more of what you put your attention on.” So- notice and expand more of this awesome inspiration.
Watch and notice success everywhere you look because, “Your thoughts create your reality”… your habits are formed by your thoughts and feelings and soon, reality is formed. As a matter of fact…your external reality becomes an attractor for how you think.
Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?
I was “fired” (ok, downsized, re-organization, call it what you will, I lost my job) 6 times in my wonderfully successful career as a healthcare executive. I finished on a high note, but trust me there were times when it felt like it had crumbled for good!
One time I lost my job was within days of our house getting robbed! All our jewelry, every darn piece and $1000 cash that we never have around the house, but we just came back from a vacation and there it was hidden in a drawer. Hidden! And they got it! Burglar alarm and all- we sat at a movie as the calls from the alarm station came in.