Your Career Matters to Every Part of Your Life. So, Create a Destination Worthy of You.
She was shot down for a promotion.
“That’s ok,” she told herself….”I didn’t want to work that hard or play those ridiculous office politics, anyway!”
Just under the surface, she was crushed.
Deep down, under her rationalizing brain, her mind began to spin.
Thoughts and feelings of all the times she was ignored, overlooked,
even mocked for being her.
All those feelings came streaming out.
Not to worry, she knew exactly how to suppress them.
Wine with friends, they will understand and so, a night out bitching together,
You Really Must Network Like this for Your Career
We have all heard it, “networking is essential for success.”
I talk about networking all the time with my clients. Heck, it brought me so many opportunities and successes that I can’t even imagine keeping my head down and ignoring this basic essential success tool.
As a matter of fact, networking is not a tool. It is life to a career. Like oxygen and blood, your body needs to live, networking is essential to the LIFE of your career.
SO many smart, hard-working, (potentials) put it off, don’t do it, shrug off the awkwardness,
“that’s only for sales people”, they say.
Do this and claim your destiny!
This week a wonderful client of mine reminded me of an exercise I gave her last year.
She was embarking on a great big journey.
She was expanding her idea of herself and…
Her work life and just how big she could be.
She began to see the miracles pop up in the path.
She sat next to a man who worked at one desired company.
Many more “synchronicities” occurred that she took not of in delight.
She began to feel it was all possible- more than possible.
She began to feel the fabric of the magical Universe unfolding in front of her very eyes!
Every day I see it. Career Success that was once imagined impossible. Career Success that was thought out of reach.
Every day women go from “why me” to powered up. Success has certain traits and leaves clues.
Successful people think a certain way and act a certain way.
How does it get that way? I have been studying success for years. First, it was my own, then my teams’, now the people I coach. There are certain principles that when followed, will lead to the same result.
We are energetic beings in a physical universe. We must live according to the quantum physics of the energy as well as the effort and action required in the physical world.
The Job Myths…..finally busted!
You must work hard, be unhappy (isn’t everyone)…..in a job, miserable?
You must work more the more you get paid…..
You must be a political, arrogant, self- seeking person to get ahead….
You must be vicious to others to be successful…..
You must leave the corporate world to be happy.
What a bunch of junk!!
There are so many myths about work and jobs that it has created real conflict in many of us!
I also see many folks pursuing their “work for myself” dream and it just doesn’t get going because of multiple issues.
You need to say yes to yourself and here is how…
You’re always following everyone’s idea of you.
You’ve been told you can’t do what your heart desires to do so you’ve settled.
You’re in a decent job, making decent money, career on the rise, but inside someone else has the grip on your soul.
Never enough time, money, joy….and yet so many people seem to be in the same boat.
Maybe this is just how life is supposed to be.
I should stop wanting more, who do I think I am?
(Wait, is that really YOUR voice?)
I too, questioned the inner surge of wanting more.
Each day I speak to folks who work. Yes, people who put forth effort in the world, mostly for a company (sometimes for themselves) and they are not happy and fulfilled. Meaning escapes them.
Are we supposed to find meaning in our work?
Maybe that is just for nomads, coaches, authors, yogis?
Meaning is the exact goal we all look for in life and YES!
It can be found in our work. When meaning is found in work we feel a high vibrational energy, feels like LOVE.
The feelings like LOVE cause chemicals in our body to soothe and make us feel great. Why, then wouldn’t we want CAREER LOVE?
We work at least 8 hours a day and if we are not feeling love,
Each day we have one choice and most of us screw it up.
Many of us blow it, right out of bed.
Many of us don’t understand just how crucial this one thing is.
So, we do the same thing every day, think of all the obstacles and barriers we have in life.
Do you know that this is everything?
This. Is. Everything.
One thing you really need to do ALL YEAR…..everyday.
Manage how you feel.
You do make choices every single day.
When you wake up, do you immediately go to the worry, the pain, the problems?
Do you chose to focus on these?
I want you to overcome these tragic problems I hear all the time.
The most difficult part of changing for the better is that we have a loyalty to our negative thinking.
Yes, you do! It is sometimes labeled as , “this is just who I am, I’m not good at interviews,” or, “I don’t think they will hire me, look at my resume”…
or other limiting self stories…“I’m just a nervous person, I don’t do well in big companies,”“Bosses are always so difficult,”“I’ve never done that before, they won’t hire me.”
We hang on to these beliefs to save ourselves the pain of not getting what we truly want, so we don’t ever go for it.
I have been upbeat all my life….but the inner talk has been challenging over the years….until I did this.
For years the first thought I had in the morning, was “Oh no, not again!” Many mornings I woke up early to go on a run. The early morning run was my feel good start to the day. I yearned to have this feeling last as long as I could.
But….that runner’s’ high and that self-talk of “way to go Mo” barely lasted to my commute to the office!
Then I added CD’s, motivational books and everything I could to FEEL BETTER on my drive in.