Yikes….I was told as a young girl that talking about money is rude. Money is also the root of all evil, right? I really need to stay away from money. It is bad….and people with it are bad!! Those were the messages I grew up with, how about you? Just like many of us, I was raised to be honest, modest and a hard worker.
I was raised that envy, money and greed go together. So, work hard for little money is how that works out…heck no! As a young catholic girl money was the devil and to be avoided at all costs! But, we need money. We need money to live, to give and to create comfort.
It is the end of the year and before you dig in and throw an “oh well!” about your career
and with your arms up….as in, this year nothing happened…..take time to control your destiny.
Just a little conversation with the right person can begin a wonderful trajectory, NOW!
Last year a woman with the initials, D.B. had a conversation with her boss.
“I have really enjoyed growing this department to this size and know I can do more.”
Nodding from across the table….
“I want to advance have have more opportunity. The past 19 years here I have contributed to the start and development of many initiatives.
This morning a career is changing…..one proud and happy (and changed) woman is starting her new dream job. She was stuck in her toxic environment for nearly 10 years, feeling competent and necessary she stuck with it. Who knows what stress disease may have befallen her? Or damage to her family may have come with more years of misery, bringing her toxic self home each night.
I know what toxicity at work can do!
One day a few months ago she messaged me that my motto,
“Everything Always Works Out for Me”
was getting on her nerves.
I asked her to give it a few days. She had a long commute and I suggested she change her thoughts on her commute.
It’s Always a Good Time for Gratitude, but bragging?
Recently, I forgot a crucial element in my life.
I forgot my center and it hurt.
You know, the external parts of life get to be too much.
Ouch the walls came tumbling down. Overwhelm took over as I soldiered on.
Warrior Mo…she came back to help me through the tough times. When times get tough, so do I.
And now I see a part of me I thought I left behind in my past. The hard-charging executive who knew how to ask and demand and create results, well….. She showed back up and it wasn’t welcome.
Who Are You In Your Dream Job?
What is Your Dream Job?
Are you now like Deena who loves Mondays and can’t wait to get back at it with her team?
Or there’s Joy who is so excited to be great and make a difference in her new sales job?
Maybe you like Annette who is now feeling valued and valuable to her boss and her organization, saying, “I feel like the real me again!”
Are you like Janet who takes a few tries to land the one job using her skills, making more money and feeling great in her environment, being a respected leader and team member?
Can we get this out of the way before we talk about your success. You are what you think about, and you attract more of what you put your attention on.
Yes, that internal dialogue does not get hidden from any of us. We are magnets to how we feel and think.
Your thoughts create your reality, your habits are formed by your thoughts and feelings and soon, reality is formed. As a matter of fact…your external reality becomes an attractor for how you think.
Remember when you bought your last new car? All of a sudden, that car was everywhere Did the dealer have a promotion and everyone in your area bought that car?
We can really get ourselves twisted up into a situation, can’t we?
You know that it’s wrong. We keep efforting to make it better. After all….who would ever hire us the way we feel? I haven’t been able to get a promotion or get recognized HERE, what makes me think I will get ahead somewhere else? So we keep on putting up with “status quo”. We tolerate being belittled, bullied or just plain bored.
You disdain Monday. How do I know? Been there, wore the stress and pain, had all the symptoms.
Here are some facts:
Your sense of self-worth is embedded in your job.
The ability to change others and make things different for you is limited.
Where is your time going? Do we spend time, use time or lose time?
This past week my old car pulled up next to me at a light. My red hybrid Camry looked ok for its age. Bumper a bit scratched and I wondered if it rode as well as it did for the five years I drove it. Nostalgia hit me like a sudden life movie began playing.
Where was I when I drove that car? Who was I when I bought it?
I was striving to be someone more than I was at the time. The car wasn’t my answer to that, I just wanted the car for practical reasons,
When you want more….will your critics win? Each week I speak to dozens of folks about their careers (and their lives). Each week I use the best in my coaching skills to bring out the best in these souls, all wanting more in life.
The pain of…
- Careers and jobs not feeling good
- A bully boss that just won’t let up
- Being overlooked for a promotion
- Knowing they are good at what they do and they don’t know how to do more
- Not being able to speak up when they need to and blowing it when they do
- Fearful of repeating the same trends and getting stuck in the same way in the next job
There is a new way….it involves leaving past programming,
It Wasn’t Really That Easy… Breast Cancer Forced Me to Bring My Soul to Work (after the spinning)
We bring forward all that we are in tough times.
I have a strength in powering through tough times. I moved 4 times before 6th grade. I became adaptable, flexible and accustomed to change. This strength helped me be an excellent critical care nurse- I loved being first to help a heart patient when they “coded”. I loved saving cardiac patients. I love helping people. But….when it was time for me I didn’t know what to do.
2008 was a year I will never forget. My world as a woman changed forever.
Breast cancer took my breasts.