How to Fail Well and Succeed.
Warning: This idea may conflict with your idea of reality!
We are taught that failure is to be avoided at all costs.
Good grades are celebrated and failing grades are punished!
Failing is bad!
Failing is wrong and painful and a sin.
Now that you are an adult, I can share something with you.
Failing WELL is the key to SUCCESS!
Yes, many successful people will tell you this.
Failures are legendary….Babe Ruth struck out 1,330 times in his baseball career, but he isn’t even in the top 100 of strike outs. The top of the list is full of Hall of Fame players and men who are the games all-time greats!
YOUR Thoughts Are Not Who You Are…
Every day you think thoughts, and science tells us over 70% of these thoughts are the same ones day in and day out. These repetitive thoughts create a belief system that controls our decisions.
Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is the science of success.
When we think and feel in repetitive ways it becomes our “reality.” Eventually it feels like our thoughts are who we are.
We are wiring our brain every minute with the wiring and “firing” of neurons, especially when emotions are high. This “programming” makes it feel permanent and convinces us that we are how we think and the world is how we feel.
Yes, imperfections guarantee your success.
Stick with me, because I see this career limiting problem over and over. I saw it last week after an email I sent out had a typo. Ok, more than a typo, since spell check would not have caught this. As a matter of fact, it may have caught the misspelling and helped me put in the wrong word. You know the pesky there/ their verbal confusion? I have no confusion about the use of which word. I was a star in English and Spelling growing up and I used to be the first to jump on wrong use of words like that. (I am tempted to put all sorts of wrong words in this article to prove my point…but sarcasm doesn’t ever serve the highest good.)
Fifteen years ago I was at a 4 day conference on how to be a world-class speaker and influencer.
This week, I decided to video my blog on work myths…
Take me on the go– less than 10 minutes to learn the 4 Work Myths that are Holding You Back.
These are “stories” you may have heard around the dinner table as a kid and not even realize they are in you. Perhaps you are caught up in seeing these issues as reality… could it be you are buying into other people’s stories and they have taken over your reality about work?
My clients know about breaking through these seemingly brick wall stories…it is possible.
A burst of energy came over me yesterday about a promise I made a long time ago.
This promise gets stronger by the day.
My feelings and motivation get deeper and I am more committed to my life with each client I work with.
You see….when I was a young nurse, I was reminded by many of my dying patients to enjoy life before it is too late. I have been living life this way with gusto for years.
Sure, every now and then it has been clouded by external events that have caused me to be in fear mode more than “no regrets” mode, but mostly I operate from…
“what do I want my life to have been when I am in a rocking chair in my golden years?”
The rocking chair test is a powerful way to pull back the lens and see who we are,
Today (in the U.S.A.) we notice those who gave their lives to our country. This is so inspirational to all of us. Where would we be without that level of dedication and loyalty?
Noticing their success and loyalty can truly fuel us.
Because, one key element of The Law of Attraction is “You are what you think about and you attract more of what you put your attention on.” So- notice and expand more of this awesome inspiration.
Watch and notice success everywhere you look because, “Your thoughts create your reality”… your habits are formed by your thoughts and feelings and soon, reality is formed. As a matter of fact…your external reality becomes an attractor for how you think.
How to Find Your Way (Use Your GPS) in Your Career
Your Inner GPS is Essential- I call it Your Soul.
I finally learned how to “Bring My Soul to Work”.
Years ago I was reading a Wayne Dyer book and felt so attached to the words and message. I felt lifted and happy to know how to see my soul and feel great in the spiritual, energetic Universe.
I went off to work and each moment I felt deflated inside- where was this spiritual message?
How can I keep this feeling inside while I work?
Well, I found out and I share it in my Free Training this week.
Have You Seen Your Greatness? 6 Steps to Find Yourself
Life and career can be overwhelming and a continual tug and pull of your energy and attention.
Others weigh in on what we should do, who we should and our focus gets stuck on the outward direction.
Often we don’t know what we are capable of and become exhausted keeping up with what people think of us, what others’ expect of us and fixing problems one after another and it never gets done.
We end up getting “comfortable” being miserable.
We settle for being smaller because no one showed us what’s possible.
Friends and family are ignored in the pursuit of what you want in your career.
Careers, money, marriage and families all go together! Your work is one of the most impactful pieces of the fabric of who you are and all those around you feel your energy and excitement (or lack thereof) of your work).
A few weeks ago I met a father and podcaster, Andy Hill, who lives in Detroit (I lived there as a kid), we had a great chat for his podcast Marriage, Kids and Family. While talking with him and sharing my top techniques, I was reminded of the work I do with careers and how it affects the entire family, and money, not just careers! This past Holiday season when a Kick Ass client told me it was the easiest,
Your Career Matters to Every Part of Your Life. So, Create a Destination Worthy of You.
She was shot down for a promotion.
“That’s ok,” she told herself….”I didn’t want to work that hard or play those ridiculous office politics, anyway!”
Just under the surface, she was crushed.
Deep down, under her rationalizing brain, her mind began to spin.
Thoughts and feelings of all the times she was ignored, overlooked,
even mocked for being her.
All those feelings came streaming out.
Not to worry, she knew exactly how to suppress them.
Wine with friends, they will understand and so, a night out bitching together,