Are You Pushing Too Hard To Get What You Want?

Welcome to MOST LIFE and this week it’s “I” for Intelligence.

We have been exploring the 8 Dimensions of a MOST LIFE, this week, the 6th Dimension, DETERMINATION! Can you have enough DETERMINATION?

Many times I have had so much determination that I ran into obstacles and stayed with a desire too long. Was it too long? Perhaps sticking with it could have produced a better result?

This is tricky territory. We know we want to achieve something so we keep at it. You may want to revisit a post of mine under MEANING to reflect on what you want in life and reflect if your determination is going toward the object of your true desires. These questions are helpful to get mental clarity. Clarity is power. We can leverage DETERMINATION very well after our mind is clear!

I was in a job years ago where I was determined to complete a project and boy, did I go after it. I was executing on a strategy that was handed to me when I arrived on the job. So, like a good soldier, I took on my responsibility and kept at it. I kept at it resistance after resistance, using my own DETERMINATION. (I was not going to fail!) There were some failures and political fall out along the way, but I kept at it. One of the casualties was me! I eventually ran into the wrong obstacles and pushed too hard! It was a relief actually, because, at the end of it, I was exhausted from pushing every day! I was determined to overcome every obstacle, even those I could not move! I took DETERMINATION too far.

To reflect on our level of DETERMINATION, let’s ask ourselves 3 key questions:

  1. Where am I pushing that I need to ease up?
  2. Where is my focus causing tunnel vision?
  3. What obstacle do I still need to overcome?

In life we are often given the same circumstances to overcome, until we correct something inside ourselves. I am dealing with that uncomfortable situation right now. Trust me, it is hard to face the reality that I AM the ONE who needs to change. When we get stuck, this is always the answer. We hold our own key to escape our own prison of the mind!

I love the quote by Mark Twain, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got”. This is when DETERMINATION backfires. I will also tell you, that when you get clear and have a pure heart, DETERMINATION is essential to move you toward your clear desires. There is a balance between pushing with the universal flow and pushing from your ego. In my MOST LIFE 2020 event I call this the “magic wand”. What side do you grab? Black or White? Which represents Lack or Might? This is crucial. Taking hold of the “right” side of determination requires self-reflection and honesty. This is where we get real, have a go at it. This week’s IDEASheet will help you get your DETERMINATION focused in the right way! DOWNLOAD NOW!