SHIFT #5 Invest in Mentoring
“Why won’t anyone listen to me?”
I’ve had times in my career where I knew the answer, had the strategy, but was way off with the organization. I banged my head on the table (not really) until I was in pain (really).
How do you know how to navigate the next level up? The next level over? Or, how to make sense of the empty, hollow feeling inside, even when you are a success, but it just isn’t all that it was cracked up to be?
I hired my first coach 16 years ago. I recently came across the receipt. (Yes, I save way too much.) She helped me see that being right isn’t the goal.
Shift # 4 Leveraging Your Time
Did it all start in Alice in Wonderland? “You’re late, you’re late, for a very important date.”
Or as our mom or dad pulled us from bed in the morning, “come on, you’re going to be late!”
We have heard of the scarcity of time since the beginning of time!
We are all given 24 hours to each day- all of us, rich, poor, famous, normal, struggling and gurus. How you handle the 24 hours and how you place time on your values determines the amount of perceived rush, struggle and chaos. Our rush to beat time, our push to maximize time is all an illusion anyway.
In all my years of success as a healthcare executive – there are 2 main success strategies- engaging people and presenting well. I spent many years thinking that you had to be “slick” to present well or a natural. I took it for granted that you either have it or you don’t! I was wrong!
I have seen so many people transform their confidence, their inner power and their presence by learning to present. I have been told the techniques I teach have changed the course for marriages, reducing conflict and elevating professionals as promotion material!
Let’s look at this wonderfully easy and simple to follow path to career bliss.
You can be a brilliant speaker,
Deep down we all have programming that dictates our thoughts,actions and feelings. Deep down we all have a yearning to be more and feel more freedom and peace. What gets in the way? What stops our true self from being THE self we are? What stops us from doing things we know will help us?
The second shift of my 5 SHIFTS to Your Kick Ass Career is all about this. How many times have you thought yourself out of something? How many times have you let doubt, shame, guilt infect your life? (I don’t really deserve a raise.)
The problem of not enough inner strength, letting the external world define you (and control you) and settling in your career all stem from the same inner issue.
In my 5 Shifts to Your KickAss Career training I talk about the importance of operating with total integrity.
If you make this mistake, you get fired- or worse…! Have you made the classic CLM mistake? That’s Career Limiting Move (CLM). You know, you say something about someone and you instantly feel the blood draining out of you.
You know the… “what do you think is wrong with Becky? I heard she and her husband are divorcing!” or the “I can’t stand her and her whiny voice.” AND THEN… SHE walks into the office! Yikes!
The biggest CLM is gossiping. Classic mistakes and missteps happen when we are under stress and pressure.
Bring Your Soul to Work
Inside all of us is a voice and an energy. A yearning.
It says, “More, please…”
More love… More joy… More self aware… More success… More freedom… More, Please…
We have a habit, though. Our habit is to shut it down. We have a habit of feeling not worthy. We have a habit of being told not to ask for things. Impolite. Improper. Selfish. Don’t! Make sure others have first. So we shut down, because it is easier. We are tired of giving to everyone. We are tired at the end of the day, for goodness sake, we are tired at the beginning of the day!
I grew up thinking of others’ happiness and being told to make sure everyone else was comfortable, had enough to eat and was happy. My life was spent thinking of others. I worked hard, pleased bosses (ok, sometimes I pissed them off) and I was very good at pleasing.
Then, as I evolved and learned more about how the Universe works and the basics of “putting your oxygen mask on yourself, first.” This is one of my 11 Lessons to Your Kick Ass Career & Life.
I began to shift to be whole inside before I took care of others. At first it seemed selfish. Drawing boundaries and not taking just anything from others took focus and discipline.
Love is in the air and it is the best model of how to succeed. Success flows where your emotions go. Feeling down and the world is out to get you? That’s surely what you will get.
Feeling in love with life, with you, with your abilities and with your essence, your gifts and feel like the Universe is on your side? You know what it feels like to fall in love? Play the video above to fall in love with you.
Falling in love is a wonderful cascade of beautiful emotions and positive thoughts punctuated by an all encompassing flow of positive neurotransmitters. Wow does it feel like a high! These “feel good” chemicals are taking our thoughts and emotions on a joy ride.
Are you wondering what your worth really is at work? Has your career stalled? Feeling typecast and taken for granted at work? Have you had a chance to get in the great energy of your super powers?
Most of us have been shut down, covered up, feel fraudulent with talking about who we are and it is causing way too much pain. You are your only advocate. Get out there and talk about how great you are. Your number one loyalty is to yourself, freedom seeker. Your number one job is YOU. Remember, put your oxygen mask on first. You are no good to anyone while you are gasping for air (learn more about this in my 11 Lessons)
To that I say,
I have been intrigued by the idea of masterminds ever since I first read Napoleon Hill’s Think & Grow Rich book over 20 years ago. In the business world, I often felt the energy of a team focused on a problem, energized to solve it and pushed by vision to succeed. I knew there was something more than meets the eye. I felt the non-physical energy was more than the actual plans and documents we were working on.
Have you felt that level of cohesiveness and “team spirit” with a group of co-workers or a volunteer group you have been a part of?
Creating Mastermind Energy
The gathering of others has an elevated energy and a miraculous push toward what seemed like the impossible.