I remember this one time when my old car pulled up next to me at a light. My red hybrid Camry looked ok for its age. Bumper a bit scratched and I wondered if it rode as well as it did for the five years I drove it. Nostalgia hit me like a sudden life movie began playing.
Where was I when I drove that car? Who was I when I bought it?
I was striving to be someone more than I was at the time. The car wasn’t my answer to that, I just wanted the car for practical reasons,
When you want more….will your critics win? Each week I speak to dozens of folks about their careers (and their lives). Each week I use the best in my coaching skills to bring out the best in these souls, all wanting more in life.
The pain of…There is a new way….it involves leaving past programming,
We bring forward all that we are in tough times.
I have a strength in powering through tough times. I moved 4 times before 6th grade. I became adaptable, flexible and accustomed to change. This strength helped me be an excellent critical care nurse- I loved being first to help a heart patient when they “coded”. I loved saving cardiac patients. I love helping people. But….when it was time for me I didn’t know what to do.
2008 was a year I will never forget. My world as a woman changed forever.
Breast cancer took my breasts.
Lots of folks I talk to can’t stand meetings, no matter what kind. They would rather speak in public.
You know the meetings, where others drone on about stats or obvious processes or budget shortfalls or….all the crap you now have to do that is added to an already full plate and OMG how can you possibly????
At every level of my career I have gone to meetings. When I worked as Vice President in a hospital system my physician colleagues would ask what I do all day.
“Meetings…..all day.” I said with a whiff of….of course I do. In a few paragraphs I will explain just how I get through it all and how I enjoyed it.
ASK? the very thought is stressful. I always took it personally. Every time I asked for anything.
You know what that does? It puts the stakes very high. When there is a greater risk we will avoid doing things. As a human, you are wired that way (Sure there are a few daredevils out there.). But, as kind and naturally loving humans, we don’t want to fail, we don’t want to hurt and we don’t want to appear stupid, foolish or arrogant.
When you ask for something and you have your whole self, reputation and inner sense of self-riding on the line, the asks don’t come. The emotions stop the brain and we FREEZE.
What if your energy force felt good all the time? What if you suspended your current worry and fear and let the good come in?
How would that feel?
What if a trusted friend said, “don’t worry, the Universe has your back”? Well, I want to tell you that is does, you just have to allow it to happen. “How can I do this” this you may ask. I see thought habits changing people’s lives every single day! You can feel different, you can control what you think about, you can change your entire life, just by changing the way you think.
People have been amazed when I tell them this! “OMG, MO, it really works!”
You’re working hard, and I know you feel like you can’t go anymore. Sometimes you think “they” will notice how great and dedicated you are. “They” should, you have put in the long hours and go the extra mile but you still feel invisible! You can look around and see that you are the best, you may even think, “man, what would they do without me?”.
I’ve been there, I remember feeling so confused and even betrayed. That’s why i’m now a career coach because I finally figured it out and been helping hundreds of folks reclaim themselves and their careers.
By bringing your soul to work, you can change these patterns and learn how to see a different way.
As many of you know, I write for the amazing blog Heal Your Life, I wanted to share one of the posts wrote over there! Focus on these 3 steps for immediate results.
We all want to stop the inner self from sabotaging our next steps in our career. Confidence is essential and the number one “make it” or “break it” ingredient. Without it, we stay stuck, miserable and feel worse, which keeps us stuck. Over and over, we feel bad, we get frustrated and we stay stuck. Where is the confidence?
From my years as an executive, I have seen four warning signs that it is time to get unstuck.
I was recently asked to talk about the global phenomenon of FOMO. Thank you, Brenda for your question!
Haven’t heard of FOMO?Well… you are really missing out!
FOMO, or Fear Of Missing Out, is a short, cute way of excusing one’s behavior or otherwise unacceptable attitude….because, well…one if FEARFUL of missing something important.
As a young girl I wanted to get home to see if there was a letter in the mail, the older I got mail and newspapers held a promise of an unexpected surprise, a possibility, a lucky blessing.
Well, this FOMO is taken to a new level with social media and the 24-hour news cycle! It has created a crazed frenzy of us wanting to know details,
Chakra? What kind of a word is that? Meditate? Yeah I have tried it.
Last summer I had it all figured out and was meditating each morning. I had just taken a “how to course” and I was practicing mindfulness each day. The 12 week class made me a meditation specialist. I knew all the science behind meditation. Only thing…it wasn’t “working”. I wasn’t feeling better. Many mornings I was just going through the motions and hoping the magic would HAPPEN to me.
Come on…
Where was that inner peace? My racing mind would not let up. Why wasn’t meditation working for me? In a busy work life we can all use some peace!
