Gender Pay Gap Part 2: Real Life and Real Answers
I am so passionate about the gender pay gap because I see it every day. It is not a headline, it is not a monthly leadership topic at work or a philosophical social problem.
IT IS A REAL LIFE, EVERYDAY PROBLEM.
I will tell you some solutions down below—but first….
A client of mine is currently at a $50,000 gap in her pay compared to her male colleagues.
(We are going to fix it!)
$50,000!!! That is $200 per day- every work day she slips behind.
She was told they would take care of it over the next 2 years.
The ONE BIG THING this year I saw.
The ONE BIG THING YOU MUST STOP DOING!
My 2018 BIG REVEAL!
This one thing cripples more careers–
Costs more money—
Stifles more souls–
Causes unwanted pain—
It actually hurts more— when it is intended to stop pain, it does the opposite– the pain increases – until it is just too painful— and then– life is difficult– and decisions are nearly impossible– you are captured by fear!
And I know why it backfires and I know how to stop it’s path of destruction.
Here’s what happens when you STOP the destruction–
Life belongs to the unreasonable.
Life belongs to the ones who break their own mold and decide they need to do THEM.
It seems unreasonable to take a higher level job when you’ve never done the work.
One client recently was coached on taking her truth and power to be a new Team Lead, never before, direct reports, lots of them….unreasonable, at least some would say!
When you listen to reason and reasonable people…..you do nothing new.
The “you can’t” drowns out the desire.
The “you shouldn’t” kills the spirit.
The “you aren’t capable” is fueling fear in the heart and soul!
Of course you can,
When I met Milijana she was feeling pretty low about her inside self.
Even though she was an award winning weight-lifter and strong on the outside, her worthiness was low.
Milijana is like so many women I work with….things look pretty good on the outside,
but the agony on the inside…..
Heck, even married to a dashing professional athlete, she wasn’t where she wanted to be at all.
Lots of ideas.
Lots of education.
Lots of confusion.
Not enough Self Worth.
Building a future from here is impossible.
The truth is,
Yikes….I was told as a young girl that talking about money is rude. Money is also the root of all evil, right? I really need to stay away from money. It is bad….and people with it are bad!! Those were the messages I grew up with, how about you? Just like many of us, I was raised to be honest, modest and a hard worker.
I was raised that envy, money and greed go together. So, work hard for little money is how that works out…heck no! As a young catholic girl money was the devil and to be avoided at all costs! But, we need money. We need money to live, to give and to create comfort.
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“I walked out on my job and then THIS Happened”
I see it all the time….walking out on the job because the emotions become unmanageable.
All the time…..
You have done it all.
They don’t see you.
Others are recognized.
You work long hours for what?
The pattern is familiar and your have no way out.
You can’t ask for help, because they would just blame you for not doing enough.
Judith’s story is very inspiring>>>>>her journey is like so many women I speak to every week.
That’s why my executive background and coaching talents come together to bring a new focus…what does it take to have difficult and “impossible” conversations?
Planting the Right Seeds for Your Career Success
Each spring seeds are planted all around the globe.
We reap what we plant.
And, we must tend to our plantings.
I hear this all the time…….
“Why am I NOT getting the promotion?”
“Why do I always get a bully boss?”
“I work so many hours and it never seems to matter.”
Amazingly, we miss the idea of planting the RIGHT seeds, when it comes to our careers and life.
Seeds are marked, planted and managed….right soil, irrigation, and eliminating pests.
Being bombed out as a little girl, refugee to Germany and the life of being unwanted was all she knew. Teenage years battling an eating disorder hurt her deeply, she barely survived that.
Some days being angry and hateful was the only defense.
Until she found her strength in the gym.
Years ago, being strong meant lifting the most weight. Milijana was a true super-hero in the gym. Medals, awards and being recognized as the strongest women in Croatia were proud moments. She thought it would take away the years of trauma. Trauma was weighing on her in many ways, eating disorder, suicidal thoughts and deep rage.
She found her safety in the gym,
I found my dream job, and so can you!
I was really focused on a job title, and what title I should go after. However, once I had clarity about the type of work I wanted to do in great detail, the job came to me, I didn’t have to go for the job.
I had to make a list of all the things I wanted in my new career. What were the qualities of the job, how did I feel working in my new career, what was my team like, how did they feel about me, how did I feel about them.
EVERYTHING I put on that piece of paper I have in my life today.
Playing small was never Breanna’s way.
But, somehow she found herself not happy, on the struggle bus and life was not what she wanted. Brea wanted to be happy inside and claim her life for herself.
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She didn’t want to scream at her kids and husband. She wanted more clients in her business and ones who are fun to work with.
As Brea found her inner awesome, began to get used to feeling great and found her inner GPS, she moved in the direction of her dreams. Not only did her business begin to grow, she felt happier about it and no longer saw it as competing with her family.