The idea of a better life seems impossible to many. So when someone says, “I have the answers,” it seems so far away. Life being joyous and free seems to be fantasy when we are trapped with what we know to be “true”. Ideas of life being difficult…Life being a struggle….Life being a lot of work permeate many of our ideas of what life IS. Migraines. Therapists. Gossip. Blaming. Anger. Victimhood. All seem so normal and they simmer like a pot ready to boil over. Bitching and moaning about life seem normal and accepted. Jobs that underpay, bosses that bully (more on that next week) and co-workers who undermine us. Toxic work environments seem like something that is normal and expected….just look at the news!
Heal Your Career, Heal Your Life
This is what I know.
When you find your awesome self, you cure your career and your life.
One recent client, unemployed for several months, 3 kids….she had skills, desire, but her vibration was all victim. She was deeply feeling unworthy and broken. She NEEDED a job!
One client was laid off from her previous job and took a job that was lower level, lower pay and the boss wasn’t able to see her skills. She needed to move on.
She started working with me to find a new job worthy of her experience and education.
My approach is to look inside.
She is all right now. She started out desperate to feel better.
She has a Masters Degree in Computer Science.
She works in a big company in Europe serving business clients.
She used to feel invisible. USED TO!
She wants to be a writer, a blogger. She wants to be seen for who she is.
We met in my Kick Ass Coaching call 12 weeks ago.
She lives in Europe and was ready to throw in the towel.
Miserable at work. Miserable with what she chose to study and learn.
But… she is talented.
Each week I see the effort of so many to work hard, push through and literally fight their way through. FIGHT. We were taught to tough it out, work hard…FIGHT for it all.
There are winners and losers…BE A WINNER. FIGHT. Work. Life. FIGHT. Family Obligations. FIGHT. Been there.
Each week I see people breakthrough this habit and move with grace and ease.
The new way to win is with your soul pouring out with YOU- true power.
The new way to success is to BRING YOUR SOUL TO WORK.
LIFE. FAMILY. NOW.
Each week I hear and see stories of finding FLOW.
How about your PATH? How’s it going for you?
Last week I spoke of Job Trauma and so many related to it!
So….how is it going for you?
Career? Life? Where you want to be?
Are you ready to get rid of….”it’s their fault”?
Ready to get rid of, “why has this happened over and over again?”Are you ready to take your feelings and your thoughts in your own hands?
How about asking a better question…
“What am I doing to attract this lesson into my life?”
Yes….when we get what we don’t want in our career and life…
This job issue can haunt you for years…and you may not even know what is going on.
Suffering from Job Trauma and Don’t Even Know It? This may be your career and life.
Job trauma, I see it everyday as a retired executive and kick ass career coach, happens when we are fired, laid off, sent packing upon a reorganization OR, have to flee a work environment that is way too overwhelming, tortured by a horrible boss or toxic work environment that goes on long enough to put us in serious stress mode for weeks, months, years and sometimes decades.
That’s job trauma!
These can all lead to continuation of the damaging set of mental programming and energy consciousness of the job trauma.
Forgiveness and Success
What the devil does forgiveness have to do with success?
Would it surprise you to hear it has everything to do with your success?
Every day in my Kick Ass Career Course I see women who have suffered what I call “Job Trauma”.
This is a very real emotional, mental and spiritual assault. Our work and career is our contribution to the world. It is our physical world energy which yields the fruits of our labor…our pay. Work is a personal contribution to an organization that serves people. No matter what work you do, you make someone’s life better. We are connected by this fabric of society.
I am so excited to feature a client of mine and an overall BadAss woman for this week’s Motivational Monday. Rhonda Ulrich, Esq. is a true inspiration to men and women, alike. Rhonda has “written” several chapters in her career and is re-inventing herself again as she grabs her alignment, “brings her soul to work” and creates the life and career worthy of her big heart! Rhonda and I have known each other for about one year and I have seen her come into such strength and alignment. We met in person at my (clients only) retreat in Miami in May…it was transformational for all the women in attendance.
Rhonda began writing inspirational blogs on her LinkedIn profile and I asked if I could feature this latest version.
How to Fail Well and Succeed.
Warning: This idea may conflict with your idea of reality!
We are taught that failure is to be avoided at all costs.
Good grades are celebrated and failing grades are punished!
Failing is bad!
Failing is wrong and painful and a sin.
Now that you are an adult, I can share something with you.
Failing WELL is the key to SUCCESS!
Yes, many successful people will tell you this.
Failures are legendary….Babe Ruth struck out 1,330 times in his baseball career, but he isn’t even in the top 100 of strike outs. The top of the list is full of Hall of Fame players and men who are the games all-time greats!
YOUR Thoughts Are Not Who You Are…
Every day you think thoughts, and science tells us over 70% of these thoughts are the same ones day in and day out. These repetitive thoughts create a belief system that controls our decisions.
Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is the science of success.
When we think and feel in repetitive ways it becomes our “reality.” Eventually it feels like our thoughts are who we are.
We are wiring our brain every minute with the wiring and “firing” of neurons, especially when emotions are high. This “programming” makes it feel permanent and convinces us that we are how we think and the world is how we feel.