Life belongs to the unreasonable.
Life belongs to the ones who break their own mold and decide they need to do THEM.
It seems unreasonable to take a higher level job when you’ve never done the work.
One client recently was coached on taking her truth and power to be a new Team Lead, never before, direct reports, lots of them….unreasonable, at least some would say!
When you listen to reason and reasonable people…..you do nothing new.
The “you can’t” drowns out the desire.
The “you shouldn’t” kills the spirit.
The “you aren’t capable” is fueling fear in the heart and soul!
Of course you can,
The Real Way to Stop Self-Sabotage (it is possible)
“I just had to leave. It was my only real option to leave and never come back!”
A successful, 48 Year old woman, who spent years building her expertise as a software programmer and project manager, was beaten down and felt helpless and worthless.
She was done with her ideas not being heard and others taking credit.
She was done with wanting things to change and her projects needed changes unwanted.
She was done with feeling a deep feeling she brought from her childhood- not being enough.
It felt so bad she couldn’t drag herself into work.
“I don’t know if I’ll ever be promoted after going for it 3 times and 3 No’s”
The woman on the other end of the call, a 54 Year old with over 25 years of excellent experience in her field in large corporations. She felt permanently stuck. At her age, retirement and fulfilling her dreams is now on the MUST DO NOW list.
She talked about her bosses, boss not being supportive of her moving up.
She talked about her boss being a micromanaging bully who shames her in meetings.
She needs a plan and an avenue for her career growth.
She can’t wait for others to be in charge of her career.
Putting Others First and Other Lies
Years go, sitting on an airplane, overloaded with stress on the way home from a long business trip, I had an AHA moment. An aha moment that shook me to my core.
The pre-flight announcement came on…blah, blah….blah (tune it out this is my 3,456th flight!).
“Put your oxygen mask on first….”
Lights came on in my over stressed heart and soul.
My stress level was because so many people, places and things demanded my attention.
So many small and large priorities took my energy away from me and there was never enough coming in to fill me up.
The One Problem With Job Loss that Everyone Overlooks
Every day I talk to a potential client who has lost her job.
She is scared and unsure.
She is worried about her money, her future and whether she can get her career on track!
She is worried that if she doesn’t get the next job she will be ruined and each day, week and month that lingers with no job, the stakes get higher and higher.
SO the desperation increases.
Desperation increases the chances of no job or one that has to be gotten as a consolation prize!
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Inspired by Debbie,
I am sharing the behind the scenes way my clients make dreams come true.
The techniques are not to use better resume writing techniques, although we must be good.
It is not the best LinkedIn profile, but we must be good there also.
It is not JUST learning to speak up and have a voice and be aligned and proud of who you are.
It is not just to network and make yourself known to the right people, and that is certainly key!
JUST HOW DO DREAMS COME TRUE?
How did Debbie, and hundreds of women just like her do it?
New Job Means a NEW YOU!
Wanting more in life requires being more.
Yup– and I spent my life working on me.
Whether it was the hundreds of repetitions of hitting a tennis ball against the garage door late in the evening…hoping for that Wimbledon Tennis Championship or late night layups in the driveway wanting to seal a victory for my team.
I was born with an innate sense of working on my skills.
The hundreds of books and countless conferences hardly touched the surface….but then…. I put it all together.
As a young nurse I studied and studied.
When I rose to the ranks of health care business professional I subscribed to The Wall Street Journal,
Kim and I met on Facebook…..she was disagreeing with me about my favorite saying:
“Everything Always Works Out For ME!”
I asked her to try it for one DAY!
She did…here’s what happened!
To say she has learned to live in the flow and create miracles is an understatement.
Not only does she have her dream job and dream salary (thanks, Mo for the wonderful techniques!!), but she is enjoying her family more, more quality time and she feels like herself AGAIN!!
Many years (too many) spent thinking this sort of life was a fairy tale, she finally felt enough was enough!
Kim is now living her life to her soul’s fullest!
I am talking about shine this month.
Your soul shining. Your soul shining is…..well……Is. Everything!
Your freedom, joy and happiness are essentially your SOUL!
When you shine your soul brightly everyone can see it.
YOU– you feel it!
Happier. Lighter. More Joy. Better decisions.
“If only my life was better. If only my job was different.”
The secret lies inside YOU.
My clients show me this everyday.
You know the secret?
Your soul is the secret.
YOU are the secret ingredient.
The secret to your freedom, joy and happiness is……
She said, “Yes, I will go for it!” She said YES to shining brighter!
This brilliant, award-winning software engineer was working with me to stand in her power, to leave a toxic workplace, to change her career and life.
What was going on with her became obvious as we worked together.
Stranded in a place that was too small for her, she was stifled and it hurt every day.
She loved her team, she loved the work.
But, her boss and the culture had robbed her soul.
Playing too small hurts in every way.
- Your opinion isn’t valued, because you aren’t in the right seat.