The Real Way to Stop Self-Sabotage (it is possible)
“I just had to leave. It was my only real option to leave and never come back!”
A successful, 48 Year old woman, who spent years building her expertise as a software programmer and project manager, was beaten down and felt helpless and worthless.
She was done with her ideas not being heard and others taking credit.
She was done with wanting things to change and her projects needed changes unwanted.
She was done with feeling a deep feeling she brought from her childhood- not being enough.
It felt so bad she couldn’t drag herself into work.
“I don’t know if I’ll ever be promoted after going for it 3 times and 3 No’s”
The woman on the other end of the call, a 54 Year old with over 25 years of excellent experience in her field in large corporations. She felt permanently stuck. At her age, retirement and fulfilling her dreams is now on the MUST DO NOW list.
She talked about her bosses, boss not being supportive of her moving up.
She talked about her boss being a micromanaging bully who shames her in meetings.
She needs a plan and an avenue for her career growth.
She can’t wait for others to be in charge of her career.
Putting Others First and Other Lies
Years go, sitting on an airplane, overloaded with stress on the way home from a long business trip, I had an AHA moment. An aha moment that shook me to my core.
The pre-flight announcement came on…blah, blah….blah (tune it out this is my 3,456th flight!).
“Put your oxygen mask on first….”
Lights came on in my over stressed heart and soul.
My stress level was because so many people, places and things demanded my attention.
So many small and large priorities took my energy away from me and there was never enough coming in to fill me up.
The One Problem With Job Loss that Everyone Overlooks
Every day I talk to a potential client who has lost her job.
She is scared and unsure.
She is worried about her money, her future and whether she can get her career on track!
She is worried that if she doesn’t get the next job she will be ruined and each day, week and month that lingers with no job, the stakes get higher and higher.
SO the desperation increases.
Desperation increases the chances of no job or one that has to be gotten as a consolation prize!
How to Use Your Future Self to Guide You Now
She wasn’t happy with her same ‘ol, same ‘ol job!
Feeling stuck in a steady job as a mother of 2 small children and being the wife she thought she needed to be. (Mo, I’m not sure why I felt I needed to do everything to keep the plates spinning!)
After our first Clarity Call, deciding to go for it herself…
she went back to ask for a small raise.
She stayed for a while longer…..reaching out again after more of the same.
Feeling stuck with financial obligations, and the “security” of many years at the same organization.
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“I walked out on my job and then THIS Happened”
I see it all the time….walking out on the job because the emotions become unmanageable.
All the time…..
You have done it all.
They don’t see you.
Others are recognized.
You work long hours for what?
The pattern is familiar and your have no way out.
You can’t ask for help, because they would just blame you for not doing enough.
Judith’s story is very inspiring>>>>>her journey is like so many women I speak to every week.
That’s why my executive background and coaching talents come together to bring a new focus…what does it take to have difficult and “impossible” conversations?
Being bombed out as a little girl, refugee to Germany and the life of being unwanted was all she knew. Teenage years battling an eating disorder hurt her deeply, she barely survived that.
Some days being angry and hateful was the only defense.
Until she found her strength in the gym.
Years ago, being strong meant lifting the most weight. Milijana was a true super-hero in the gym. Medals, awards and being recognized as the strongest women in Croatia were proud moments. She thought it would take away the years of trauma. Trauma was weighing on her in many ways, eating disorder, suicidal thoughts and deep rage.
She found her safety in the gym,
Jess tells us how she went from working in a job that did not serve her skills and talents to landing her dream job.
Jess began to feel happy about her work, and totally knew she used the Law of Attraction and expert coaching to arrive at a place in her life that she previously thought was out of reach for her.
Now she’s living her dream job.
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Jess….like many of us…was STUCK in bad thinking. Jess thought the Law of Attraction didn’t work for her.
The energetic Universe was listening, each minute her thoughts and feelings were being picked up and returned to her in the exact same way she was putting them out.
YOUR Thoughts Are Not Who You Are…
Every day you think thoughts, and science tells us over 70% of these thoughts are the same ones day in and day out. These repetitive thoughts create a belief system that controls our decisions.
Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is the science of success.
When we think and feel in repetitive ways it becomes our “reality.” Eventually it feels like our thoughts are who we are.
We are wiring our brain every minute with the wiring and “firing” of neurons, especially when emotions are high. This “programming” makes it feel permanent and convinces us that we are how we think and the world is how we feel.
Do this and claim your destiny!
This week a wonderful client of mine reminded me of an exercise I gave her last year.
She was embarking on a great big journey.
She was expanding her idea of herself and…
Her work life and just how big she could be.
She began to see the miracles pop up in the path.
She sat next to a man who worked at one desired company.
Many more “synchronicities” occurred that she took note of in delight.
She began to feel it was all possible – more than possible.
She began to feel the fabric of the magical Universe unfolding in front of her very eyes!