YOUR Thoughts Are Not Who You Are…
Every day you think thoughts, and science tells us over 70% of these thoughts are the same ones day in and day out. These repetitive thoughts create a belief system that controls our decisions.
Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is the science of success.
When we think and feel in repetitive ways it becomes our “reality.” Eventually it feels like our thoughts are who we are.
We are wiring our brain every minute with the wiring and “firing” of neurons, especially when emotions are high. This “programming” makes it feel permanent and convinces us that we are how we think and the world is how we feel.
Do this and claim your destiny!
This week a wonderful client of mine reminded me of an exercise I gave her last year.
She was embarking on a great big journey.
She was expanding her idea of herself and…
Her work life and just how big she could be.
She began to see the miracles pop up in the path.
She sat next to a man who worked at one desired company.
Many more “synchronicities” occurred that she took not of in delight.
She began to feel it was all possible- more than possible.
She began to feel the fabric of the magical Universe unfolding in front of her very eyes!
I want you to overcome these tragic problems I hear all the time.
The most difficult part of changing for the better is that we have a loyalty to our negative thinking.
Yes, you do! It is sometimes labeled as , “this is just who I am, I’m not good at interviews,” or, “I don’t think they will hire me, look at my resume”…
or other limiting self stories…“I’m just a nervous person, I don’t do well in big companies,”“Bosses are always so difficult,”“I’ve never done that before, they won’t hire me.”
We hang on to these beliefs to save ourselves the pain of not getting what we truly want, so we don’t ever go for it.
Happy New You! New You all Year Long.
Happy New YOU!
Each year, same old resolutions come and go and they are written about why they fail. Perhaps now you settle into a simple promise that you know you can keep.
“I will be more sincere this year.” And as soon as you say it your gremlin mind begins to take over! “You know you can’t be that way at work!” “You know you can’t be that way with Sally!” (Friend who needs your shoulder to cry on and you never get anything from her.)
This year must be different. You must get that promotion, get that raise, or go for that new job that you are so worth and ready for!
This morning a career is changing…..one proud and happy (and changed) woman is starting her new dream job. She was stuck in her toxic environment for nearly 10 years, feeling competent and necessary she stuck with it. Who knows what stress disease may have befallen her? Or damage to her family may have come with more years of misery, bringing her toxic self home each night.
I know what toxicity at work can do!
One day a few months ago she messaged me that my motto,
“Everything Always Works Out for Me”
was getting on her nerves.
I asked her to give it a few days. She had a long commute and I suggested she change her thoughts on her commute.
The art of the interview. Yes, it is an art, meaning it is a skill you must work for, practice, and in the end master. It may not come easy, especially with little practice. Maybe you’re shy, you don’t like to speak up, or you have little experience with interviews. Whatever the reason may be, we all have to step up and interview. Even if you are shy, there are foolproof ways to present and prepare yourself to rock your next interview!
1. Get Interview Ready
It’s extremely important to prepare for an interview, even if you get one last second there are key steps you can take to really rock your interview! Not only will this calm your nerves and boost your confidence,
In my 5 Shifts to Your KickAss Career training I talk about the importance of operating with total integrity.
If you make this mistake, you get fired- or worse…! Have you made the classic CLM mistake? That’s Career Limiting Move (CLM). You know, you say something about someone and you instantly feel the blood draining out of you.
You know the… “what do you think is wrong with Becky? I heard she and her husband are divorcing!” or the “I can’t stand her and her whiny voice.” AND THEN… SHE walks into the office! Yikes!
The biggest CLM is gossiping. Classic mistakes and missteps happen when we are under stress and pressure.
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This week’s KICK ASS Career we are on A – for Action
When I start a video, my videographer says “ACTION!”
Now I have to be “ON”. If I didn’t know what I was going to say, I’d be lost. When the director yells ACTION, we have to ACT.
When else in life do we get such a great signal that it’s time to take action? If you have your kick-ass career in gear, you know it’s always time for action. But how do you know if it is right action?
So many people I talk to don’t know what action to take.
Here at MOST LIFE we cover one of our eight themes each week. This week we cover “F” for Freedom
My closets are brimming over with old pillows, photographs, special trinkets from trips and all sorts of “meaningful” stuff. My shelves are full of my book “friends”. We have no more room to collect stuff and keep our things. “Wait, what if I need that someday?” I hear my fear creep in, I get sweaty with anxiety and I don’t know what I would do if I was right. Some far off day I may be asked to pull out that best seller from 2003 and delight someone with my savvy saving.
This week we cover “M” for meaning, it is the first letter of MOST LIFE and it is no coincidence that it ends and starts this year.
This time of the year we are given a gift of closure as the year comes to a calendar close. This is a natural opportunity to reflect and plan. I always take the time to do year end and year beginning thinking. It is one of the most important uses of time. The nay-sayers will say, “why bother, it doesn’t matter”. Well, I say, of course it matters, any definite plan or thought(s) you have, especially when you write it down is worthwhile and sets in motion both conscious and subconscious action toward your plans.