Life belongs to the unreasonable.
Life belongs to the ones who break their own mold and decide they need to do THEM.
It seems unreasonable to take a higher level job when you’ve never done the work.
One client recently was coached on taking her truth and power to be a new Team Lead, never before, direct reports, lots of them….unreasonable, at least some would say!
When you listen to reason and reasonable people…..you do nothing new.
The “you can’t” drowns out the desire.
The “you shouldn’t” kills the spirit.
The “you aren’t capable” is fueling fear in the heart and soul!
Of course you can,
Breast Cancer Month always brings me back to my soul!
To the call I received from the doctor after a business lunch.
To telling my family I have breast cancer, and taking care of their feelings.
To the brutal way my breasts were handled and poked and prodded all along the way.
The final days of having breasts, the teary news to my team at work and the days in the ICU, passing out from low blood counts, nurses who were amazing and the beautiful care I received from one nurse, whose own sister shared my birthday and died of breast cancer.
There are memories of my breast cancer journey each morning,
Keeping your soul alive and thriving during hard times is what life is all about.
When life is flowing and easy, there is no growth.
We are here on this planet to grow and to have our growth be for other’s growth.
It’s all about that.
Every week I speak to women on my free career clarity calls and their souls are dim.
Souls dim from a 48 year old woman who lost her job and gave it her all. Now what?
Souls dim after being hospitalized for a nervous breakdown and thinking life was going to be a fight every step of the way. Her 3 kids aged 10-16 need her,
Bad News comes in all forms…..like…..
“The masses we biopsied are cancer.”
I was driving back to my office after a business lunch.
The September day was bright and sunny. I was still eager in my brand new job and this call from the doctor shook me deep.
All I could do was nod quietly and ask what is next.
This was the worst phone call ever.
The morning of this call my 16 year old Step Daughter was in a fender bender which totally her new (less than 2 weeks old, but used) car.
Bad news was this day’s theme.
I had to shake off the stun and the sting before I called my partner.
The Real Way to Stop Self-Sabotage (it is possible)
“I just had to leave. It was my only real option to leave and never come back!”
A successful, 48 Year old woman, who spent years building her expertise as a software programmer and project manager, was beaten down and felt helpless and worthless.
She was done with her ideas not being heard and others taking credit.
She was done with wanting things to change and her projects needed changes unwanted.
She was done with feeling a deep feeling she brought from her childhood- not being enough.
It felt so bad she couldn’t drag herself into work.
“I don’t know if I’ll ever be promoted after going for it 3 times and 3 No’s”
The woman on the other end of the call, a 54 Year old with over 25 years of excellent experience in her field in large corporations. She felt permanently stuck. At her age, retirement and fulfilling her dreams is now on the MUST DO NOW list.
She talked about her bosses, boss not being supportive of her moving up.
She talked about her boss being a micromanaging bully who shames her in meetings.
She needs a plan and an avenue for her career growth.
She can’t wait for others to be in charge of her career.
Each week I get reminded of one of the biggest problems facing professional women today.
Talking with career focused women by the hundreds each month, I notice a few common, yet subtle clues that point to deep consciousness programming.
Programming that points to giving away energy.
Programming that leads to not holding one’s space in the world.
A clue to me that there needs to be a deep change.
The dreaded “I’m sorry”. UGH……
We are trained from an early age to excuse ourselves.
We are scolded and scolded.
“Say you’re sorry….”
Sorry is great when we hurt someone or offend them.
When I met Milijana she was feeling pretty low about her inside self.
Even though she was an award winning weight-lifter and strong on the outside, her worthiness was low.
Milijana is like so many women I work with….things look pretty good on the outside,
but the agony on the inside…..
Heck, even married to a dashing professional athlete, she wasn’t where she wanted to be at all.
Lots of ideas.
Lots of education.
Lots of confusion.
Not enough Self Worth.
Building a future from here is impossible.
The truth is,
Putting Others First and Other Lies
Years go, sitting on an airplane, overloaded with stress on the way home from a long business trip, I had an AHA moment. An aha moment that shook me to my core.
The pre-flight announcement came on…blah, blah….blah (tune it out this is my 3,456th flight!).
“Put your oxygen mask on first….”
Lights came on in my over stressed heart and soul.
My stress level was because so many people, places and things demanded my attention.
So many small and large priorities took my energy away from me and there was never enough coming in to fill me up.
The One Problem With Job Loss that Everyone Overlooks
Every day I talk to a potential client who has lost her job.
She is scared and unsure.
She is worried about her money, her future and whether she can get her career on track!
She is worried that if she doesn’t get the next job she will be ruined and each day, week and month that lingers with no job, the stakes get higher and higher.
SO the desperation increases.
Desperation increases the chances of no job or one that has to be gotten as a consolation prize!